Monday, May 23, 2016

Women and the Men Who Insult Them

Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.
~Khalil Gibran

Verbal attacks on women proliferate these days and are especially cruel to women deemed ugly by public figures. The insults are thrown at women not because of their physical appearance, but as a result of displeasing the pontificator, usually by disagreeing with a political point of view.

Physical chemistry is a funny thing, and everyone does not agree on who is stunning and beautiful, cute and good-looking, or unappealing and unsightly. Ugly in these public oratorical free-for-alls is defined as individuals men find unattractive because the women do not kowtow to the male VIP. Recently certain male public figures, such as the Republican presumptive Presidential candidate, have elevated insulting, mocking and denigrating adversaries to an art form.

Why is it so difficult for some men to view women as real people?

And why do some women ignore all the negativity unleashed on women and support and defend misogynists, defined by as a person who hates, dislikes, mistrusts, or mistreats women?

I can understand Trump’s family, and specifically his wife and daughter, defending the man. A supportive family is important to a politician vying for President. Not that Trump considers himself a ‘real politician’. But being a faithful, if sometimes untruthful, supporter is one of the requirements of a Presidential candidate’s family.

But what about all those other women?

What about the Anne Coulters of the world?

I realize some women want to be taken care of, their goal in life to hook a rich husband. But if that is not possible – most of us are too old and/or flawed to be considered for Donald’s wife #4 – why lavish attention on the man and ignore his insolence and incivility?

Trump is not the only man to disparage women, recently or in the past. Ex-Pa. Governor Rendell predicted Trump would lose the Presidential election because of the votes of "ugly women." He recanted and apologized, but the negativity continues…

Today anti-women diatribes are accepted by a segment of the population, many relishing the innuendoes and attacks by politicians and trash talk hosts such as Rush Limbaugh. Over two decades ago Rush stated, “I think this reason why girls don’t do well on multiple choice tests goes all the way back to the Bible, all the way back to Genesis, Adam and Eve. God said, All right, Eve, multiple choice or multiple orgasms, what’s it going to be? We all know what was chosen.”  Rush has a legacy of anti-women (and other bigoted) speechifying. Trump has elevated the anti-woman and anti-a-lot-of-other-things oratory of Rush and his cohorts, playing to a constituency used to the harsh rhetoric.

Will Trump’s comments hurt him? In his own words from a 1991 Esquire interview: “You know, it doesn’t really matter what [the media] write as long as you’ve got a young and beautiful piece of ass.”

How often do you hear women denigrating the appearance of male rivals? I tried finding comments by women about men’s unattractiveness. I unearthed lots of quotes about ugly women, but almost none about unattractive men. If anyone knows any quotes about ugly men (not X-rated please), send the quote my way. Thanks!

I will end on a high note with this line by Confucius:
 Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.