Monday, May 23, 2016

Women and the Men Who Insult Them

Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.
~Khalil Gibran

Verbal attacks on women proliferate these days and are especially cruel to women deemed ugly by public figures. The insults are thrown at women not because of their physical appearance, but as a result of displeasing the pontificator, usually by disagreeing with a political point of view.

Physical chemistry is a funny thing, and everyone does not agree on who is stunning and beautiful, cute and good-looking, or unappealing and unsightly. Ugly in these public oratorical free-for-alls is defined as individuals men find unattractive because the women do not kowtow to the male VIP. Recently certain male public figures, such as the Republican presumptive Presidential candidate, have elevated insulting, mocking and denigrating adversaries to an art form.

Why is it so difficult for some men to view women as real people?

And why do some women ignore all the negativity unleashed on women and support and defend misogynists, defined by as a person who hates, dislikes, mistrusts, or mistreats women?

I can understand Trump’s family, and specifically his wife and daughter, defending the man. A supportive family is important to a politician vying for President. Not that Trump considers himself a ‘real politician’. But being a faithful, if sometimes untruthful, supporter is one of the requirements of a Presidential candidate’s family.

But what about all those other women?

What about the Anne Coulters of the world?

I realize some women want to be taken care of, their goal in life to hook a rich husband. But if that is not possible – most of us are too old and/or flawed to be considered for Donald’s wife #4 – why lavish attention on the man and ignore his insolence and incivility?

Trump is not the only man to disparage women, recently or in the past. Ex-Pa. Governor Rendell predicted Trump would lose the Presidential election because of the votes of "ugly women." He recanted and apologized, but the negativity continues…

Today anti-women diatribes are accepted by a segment of the population, many relishing the innuendoes and attacks by politicians and trash talk hosts such as Rush Limbaugh. Over two decades ago Rush stated, “I think this reason why girls don’t do well on multiple choice tests goes all the way back to the Bible, all the way back to Genesis, Adam and Eve. God said, All right, Eve, multiple choice or multiple orgasms, what’s it going to be? We all know what was chosen.”  Rush has a legacy of anti-women (and other bigoted) speechifying. Trump has elevated the anti-woman and anti-a-lot-of-other-things oratory of Rush and his cohorts, playing to a constituency used to the harsh rhetoric.

Will Trump’s comments hurt him? In his own words from a 1991 Esquire interview: “You know, it doesn’t really matter what [the media] write as long as you’ve got a young and beautiful piece of ass.”

How often do you hear women denigrating the appearance of male rivals? I tried finding comments by women about men’s unattractiveness. I unearthed lots of quotes about ugly women, but almost none about unattractive men. If anyone knows any quotes about ugly men (not X-rated please), send the quote my way. Thanks!

I will end on a high note with this line by Confucius:
 Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.


  1. I'm glad you have the energy to attack this MCP. I defended Palin to my more Liberal friends because I believe women have a right to express an opinion, just like men. Whether those opinions are informed or not is a different matter.

    Despite all the misstatements attributed to her, especially those uttered by Tina Fey, Palin is an articulate and bright woman, and as the first to support Trump and bring her loyal supporters along, she will no doubt land a spot in his ministration.

    However, Coulter is a real dumb bunny and very badly informed. If you want a good female Conservative voice there are many others to choose from.

    I have listened to all of them, so as to keep an open mind, however, this election I am going with the Democrat. Ordered my Hillary bumper stickers this week and have been making contributions to her campaign. Most of my rational is anti-Trump.

  2. I found this post very thoughtful. Misogyny has been around longer than we have, but it sure seems to be front and center these days, partly because of the makeup of our national election candidates. I am afraid for my country if Trump becomes President. :-(

  3. I agree with Djan and will add that I am afraid for my gender if Trump becomes president. If I were forced to listen to Ann Coulter for 20 minutes, I would confess to crimes I never committed.

  4. The nasty comments of anyone best describe their own internal insecurities, which means Trump is REALLY INSECURE! Being him is its own punishment!
    Great reading Meryl! You GO GIRL!

  5. Its possible the whole point of anything The Donald says or does during this campaign may have little or nothing to do with what he really thinks or believes. Capture the media's attention -- so easy if you know how in this celebrity worship obsessed culture. Plus It's also about the deal and the deal for him in this instance is to get the Repub. nomination -- has the necessary number of délegate votes as of today reportedly. Disparaging references toward women are disgusting as are those who utter them. Even derogatory terms sometimes used to belittle men incorporate negative references to women such as mf, sob, come to mind and probably others.