Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Chelsea's Wedding and "Committed"

I figure that the degree of difficulty in combining two lives ranks somewhere between rerouting a hurricane and finding a parking place in downtown Manhattan. 
     ~Claire Cloninger, "When the Glass Slipper Doesn't Fit 
and the Silver Spoon is in Someone Else's Mouth"

I did not make the guest list for the Clinton/Mezvinsky wedding bash the summer of 2010, which is not a surprise considering I never met Chelsea, Marc, or their parents. Although the event apparently cost more money than most of us will ever have in our savings accounts, the one to three million dollars was apparently peanuts to the multimillionaire parents. 

At least the event did not turn into a paparazzi happening; far fewer celebrities were invited than the press anticipated. That is a good thing. Perhaps the wedding planners had their head on straight and invited those who knew and cared about the bride and groom, not just political cronies, celebrity seekers and hangers-on. That probably made the event more meaningful (and less of a circus) for those involved.
I thought about Chelsea’s wedding recently when reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s book “Committed”. I read  "Eat, Pray, Love," and after passionate discussion among friends over which countries we want to experience our Eat, Pray, Love adventures, we moved on to her next book. (Our favorites for Eat was Italy, Pray was Israel, and Love was France.)
"Committed" is Ms. Gilbert's personal journey from a fear of commitment and long-term relationships, resulting from a messy divorce and other relationships, to a willingness to try again and the joy of moving on.

I doubt Chelsea read Gilbert’s book. But I wonder how, or if, she has thought about the institution of marriage and how it will change her life from this day forward. Her parents have a checkered marriage history, and Marc’s parents are divorced. What does that portend for the newlyweds?
They are part of a generation of young, educated, ambitious Americans forging ahead with optimism and great promise for the future, unaware or indifferent to the boundaries, real and imagined, placed on previous generations. 

We  wish them the very best for their future – a life of love, companionship, understanding, and growth, facing the world together, supporting each other with respect, grace, humor, and friendship.